My father passed away peacefully at home in his sleep the night of August 19th, 2007. It had been an eventful day of swimming and barbecue at my parent's home for their adult kids and grandkids. My father got to see everyone and say goodbye one last time to all the kids and grandkids. He gave me a big hearty handshake, smiled, looked me in the eye with those big friendly eyes of his, and said goodbye. Little did any of us know that that would indeed be the final goodbye.
Sunday, September 9, 2007
What He Should Be Remembered For
What, in your opinion, should my dad be remembered for the most?
For me it's impossible to name just one thing Dad should be remembered for. There are so many wonderful memories I have, how could I pick something and call it "the one thing"? What always comes to mind is how Dad always wanted us to have the things that he never had in life when he was growing up. To that end, he worked hard... very hard. There was a period of about 7 years in Kansas City where Dad worked 6 days a week. He would leave in the wee hours of the morning before the sun came up, around 5AM. And often he wouldn't get home until 13 hours later, at 6 PM. I can't imagine doing that 6 days a week, getting one day off, and then heading back out the door at 5 AM the next morning. But off he would go. Dad's hands would often crack and bleed, they were so rough from handling all the cake racks and everything else he had to handle all day long as a route driver for Dolly Madison. When he got home, he would ask us to rub Cornhusker's hand lotion on his hands. Cornhusker's lotion was kind of a hand-lotion-for-men product. No perfumey smell, and no girly color. Just a gooey glob of this thick concoction that you could hardly squeeze out of the bottle, that I guess felt good on your hands. I think Dad's idea was that if someone rubbed it on your hands for you one hand at a time, it was only half the pain of rubbing your two sore hands together. I never asked him, it's just my theory. Anyway, my hat's also off to my brother Dave who knows all too well from personal experience what Dad went through with his hands. Maybe he can comment on my theory. On his day off, Dad dedicated his entire day to us. It was off to church on Sunday morning, followed by a planned activity that all of us kids could enjoy. Mom and Dad took us everywhere, even though we always complained that we never got to go anywhere. If you have kids, you know exactly what I mean when I say it's funny how things in life tend to repeat themselves. So, Dad, thank you for working butt off for us. We truly do appreciate it.
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For me it's impossible to name just one thing Dad should be remembered for. There are so many wonderful memories I have, how could I pick something and call it "the one thing"?
What always comes to mind is how Dad always wanted us to have the things that he never had in life when he was growing up. To that end, he worked hard... very hard. There was a period of about 7 years in Kansas City where Dad worked 6 days a week. He would leave in the wee hours of the morning before the sun came up, around 5AM. And often he wouldn't get home until 13 hours later, at 6 PM. I can't imagine doing that 6 days a week, getting one day off, and then heading back out the door at 5 AM the next morning. But off he would go.
Dad's hands would often crack and bleed, they were so rough from handling all the cake racks and everything else he had to handle all day long as a route driver for Dolly Madison. When he got home, he would ask us to rub Cornhusker's hand lotion on his hands. Cornhusker's lotion was kind of a hand-lotion-for-men product. No perfumey smell, and no girly color. Just a gooey glob of this thick concoction that you could hardly squeeze out of the bottle, that I guess felt good on your hands.
I think Dad's idea was that if someone rubbed it on your hands for you one hand at a time, it was only half the pain of rubbing your two sore hands together. I never asked him, it's just my theory.
Anyway, my hat's also off to my brother Dave who knows all too well from personal experience what Dad went through with his hands. Maybe he can comment on my theory.
On his day off, Dad dedicated his entire day to us. It was off to church on Sunday morning, followed by a planned activity that all of us kids could enjoy. Mom and Dad took us everywhere, even though we always complained that we never got to go anywhere.
If you have kids, you know exactly what I mean when I say it's funny how things in life tend to repeat themselves.
So, Dad, thank you for working butt off for us. We truly do appreciate it.
My Dad was a wonderful man. He was the best Dad a girl could ask for! What he should be remembered for is heart. He NEVER spoke poorly of anyone.
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